How to make friends with other new moms
Motherhood is a life-changing experience, but it can also be lonely—especially in the early days when you’re adjusting to a new routine, navigating sleepless nights, and figuring out how to care for a tiny human. Having friends who understand the ups and downs of new motherhood can make all the difference. Mom friends offer emotional support, share parenting tips, and provide companionship during long days with a newborn. They help normalize the challenges, celebrate the wins, and remind you that you’re not alone. Many new moms crave connection but aren’t sure how to build friendships in this season of life. The good news? Finding mom friends is possible, and having a supportive community makes the journey of motherhood so much easier and more joyful. If you’re wondering how to connect with other moms, here are some practical ways to build meaningful friendships.
Embrace the “Proximity, Timing, and Energy” Rule
Mel Robbins, a well-known motivational speaker, emphasizes the importance of proximity, timing, and energy in forming friendships:
• Proximity – You need to be near people regularly to build a relationship. Seeing the same moms at baby classes, coffee shops or at the park helps create familiarity.
• Timing – Friendships happen when both people are in a stage of life where they’re open to connection. New moms often feel isolated and are looking for community—so now is a perfect time!
• Energy – Pay attention to how you feel around different moms. Do you feel supported and understood? Lean into friendships that feel energizing rather than draining.
2. Put Yourself in the Right Places
Friendship doesn’t happen by accident—it happens when you show up in spaces where like-minded people are. Try these mom-friendly activities:
• Postpartum support groups – These groups offer both emotional support and opportunities to connect.
• Baby classes – Music, story time at the library, baby yoga, and swimming lessons are great ways to meet other moms.
• Local mom groups – Check out or local community centers (library, recreation center, etc.) or search on your local Facebook groups for gatherings specifically for moms.
• Parks and playgrounds – Strike up a conversation with another mom while your babies play.
3. Be the One to Reach Out
If you meet a mom you connect with, don’t be afraid to take the first step. Say, “Want to meet up for a walk next week?” or “I’m going to the library class, want to join me there?” Follow up and make plans—don’t just wait for the other person to initiate.
4. Give It Time
Friendships don’t happen overnight. Some connections will stick, and others won’t—and that’s okay. Keep putting yourself out there, and over time, you’ll find your people.
If you’re a new mom looking for connection, take the first step today. Join a group, say hello to another mom at the park, or check out The Mom Village Project for more support. Your village is out there, and you don’t have to do motherhood alone.
